The day is beautiful . Perfect Sunday ! Good night sleep , amazing home cooked breakfast. What else can a person ask for ? But then , my phone bell rings .
Me : "Hello " !
Her : Hey sabbi . Its me !
Me : Yeah. Got you. So, how have you been ?
Her : Nothing much. back home for holidays and all . Enjoying being at home . Aur Kya !
Me: Great ! Same here. Life's going good at my end . Aur bata ? Lets catch up . What say ?
Her: Not possible today . Have to go to meet my boy .
Me : Aaayeeee ! Kabhi toh mere liye time nikalo . You are always busy . With HIM !
Her: No. Nothing as such . Today am gonna sort everything out .
Me : Sort out What ? Everything's okay ?
Her : Yeah . Just on the verge of breakup. Part of life ! Maybe .
Me : Shut up ! Part of life ? You saying this to me ? You loved him so much . I know that . How can you just let him go without any discussion . Doesn't he know how much you love and care about him ?
Her : Maybe he doesn't .
Me : What does that mean now ?
Her : I never told him much about my feelings . I never felt the need . I don't blabber about my feelings at least like him .
Me: You are right . Its all his fault . What a jerk he is . He never understood all this while about your feelings. What does he think you are ? He should have felt of how much you love him . After a relationship of 3 years, he must be able to read your mind completely. Jerk , idiot , bewakoof !
Her : Aaaargh ! Shut up . Okay ! I know its my fault . Stop shouting and tell me what should i do ?
Me : What do you mean you never told him much about your feelings ?
Her : He always used to pamper me . Everything seems changed past few weeks .
Me : Great ! From 3 years , the relationship has been going like this ? You loved him , why didn't you ever talk about it ? Make him feel special ?
Her : I don't know . I never felt the need . I promise i'll do it now. I'll do everything .
Me : Am not sure if that would help now . Still , talk about it .
Her : Am struck in a lot of mess . Dad is not talking to me too . He's angry from me past 2 days or so .
Me : Why is that now ? And better stop crying . Tell me what is it ?
Her : He's always crying i don't have time for him and mum . Am busy with lappy and my cell phone all the time.
Me : Chill . Everything's gonna be fine . Instead of talking to me , just plan your meeting with him. And yeah, better buy a small gift or so . Take care . And yes, I love you . Always have ! Bbbyee . I'll talk to you once you have come back from the meeting.
Her : Hell Yeah ! Will call you in the evening . Bye !
So, after asking from my readers and all the hints am getting since morning , You were right Sujata Bhau ! " Silence Kills Relationships" This one's for you . And yes, for all the other readers .
" People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care "
What is the purpose of being in a relationship if you can't even tell the person what you feel for him . Ever wondered how many years or months it have been since you last said " I Love You Dad / Mom " to your parents ? Remember sharing what all you love you have in your heart for them ?
Being Silent was good till the time we were in 4th standard and used to keep fingers on our Lips. You follow this dumb rule and you see people you love gradually going away from you . What's the point of Loving someone if you can't express your feeling even with the same person ?
Silence can kill your relationship with your partner and bring many scars into it but a good conversation can heal a broken heart . A merry heart pours out sweet words from her and can kill the disease inside the house . Why only a partner ? It can be any person whom you share a living relationship with . If the person you love - friend , partner , even your parents , are non talkative it could be like living with a statue . How long can someone bear that kind of relationship ? If you still bear that , its Compromise not Love .
How it can work out :-
" One kind word can warm three winter months " .
1. Come up with a mantra instead of using the silent statement . Mantra ! Something that you repeat to yourself that empowers you and helps you see the bigger picture . This helps the most in the middle of an argument .
2. Write down what all differences you have with the person . Take control , and discuss them .You cannot be close to someone with whom you are afraid to discuss feelings .
3. Nagging and picking on the people you love are not same as negotiating . In fact , these are the pseudo things that people do often and tell themselves at least they are talking instead of being silent .
Don't just Talk to kill the silence , Talk to make other person believe that you really Care . Its between the two of you . Two people . Don't let people take advantage of this silence . Ever . Take charge , be Strong and say it .
" One kind word can warm three winter months " .
P.S. - I hope everything gets sorted out between the two ! :)
Me : "Hello " !
Her : Hey sabbi . Its me !
Me : Yeah. Got you. So, how have you been ?
Her : Nothing much. back home for holidays and all . Enjoying being at home . Aur Kya !
Me: Great ! Same here. Life's going good at my end . Aur bata ? Lets catch up . What say ?
Her: Not possible today . Have to go to meet my boy .
Me : Aaayeeee ! Kabhi toh mere liye time nikalo . You are always busy . With HIM !
Her: No. Nothing as such . Today am gonna sort everything out .
Me : Sort out What ? Everything's okay ?
Her : Yeah . Just on the verge of breakup. Part of life ! Maybe .
Me : Shut up ! Part of life ? You saying this to me ? You loved him so much . I know that . How can you just let him go without any discussion . Doesn't he know how much you love and care about him ?
Her : Maybe he doesn't .
Me : What does that mean now ?
Her : I never told him much about my feelings . I never felt the need . I don't blabber about my feelings at least like him .
Me: You are right . Its all his fault . What a jerk he is . He never understood all this while about your feelings. What does he think you are ? He should have felt of how much you love him . After a relationship of 3 years, he must be able to read your mind completely. Jerk , idiot , bewakoof !
Her : Aaaargh ! Shut up . Okay ! I know its my fault . Stop shouting and tell me what should i do ?
Me : What do you mean you never told him much about your feelings ?
Her : He always used to pamper me . Everything seems changed past few weeks .
Me : Great ! From 3 years , the relationship has been going like this ? You loved him , why didn't you ever talk about it ? Make him feel special ?
Her : I don't know . I never felt the need . I promise i'll do it now. I'll do everything .
Me : Am not sure if that would help now . Still , talk about it .
Her : Am struck in a lot of mess . Dad is not talking to me too . He's angry from me past 2 days or so .
Me : Why is that now ? And better stop crying . Tell me what is it ?
Her : He's always crying i don't have time for him and mum . Am busy with lappy and my cell phone all the time.
Me : Chill . Everything's gonna be fine . Instead of talking to me , just plan your meeting with him. And yeah, better buy a small gift or so . Take care . And yes, I love you . Always have ! Bbbyee . I'll talk to you once you have come back from the meeting.
Her : Hell Yeah ! Will call you in the evening . Bye !
So, after asking from my readers and all the hints am getting since morning , You were right Sujata Bhau ! " Silence Kills Relationships" This one's for you . And yes, for all the other readers .
" People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care "
What is the purpose of being in a relationship if you can't even tell the person what you feel for him . Ever wondered how many years or months it have been since you last said " I Love You Dad / Mom " to your parents ? Remember sharing what all you love you have in your heart for them ?
Being Silent was good till the time we were in 4th standard and used to keep fingers on our Lips. You follow this dumb rule and you see people you love gradually going away from you . What's the point of Loving someone if you can't express your feeling even with the same person ?
Silence can kill your relationship with your partner and bring many scars into it but a good conversation can heal a broken heart . A merry heart pours out sweet words from her and can kill the disease inside the house . Why only a partner ? It can be any person whom you share a living relationship with . If the person you love - friend , partner , even your parents , are non talkative it could be like living with a statue . How long can someone bear that kind of relationship ? If you still bear that , its Compromise not Love .
How it can work out :-
" One kind word can warm three winter months " .
1. Come up with a mantra instead of using the silent statement . Mantra ! Something that you repeat to yourself that empowers you and helps you see the bigger picture . This helps the most in the middle of an argument .
2. Write down what all differences you have with the person . Take control , and discuss them .You cannot be close to someone with whom you are afraid to discuss feelings .
3. Nagging and picking on the people you love are not same as negotiating . In fact , these are the pseudo things that people do often and tell themselves at least they are talking instead of being silent .
Don't just Talk to kill the silence , Talk to make other person believe that you really Care . Its between the two of you . Two people . Don't let people take advantage of this silence . Ever . Take charge , be Strong and say it .
" One kind word can warm three winter months " .
P.S. - I hope everything gets sorted out between the two ! :)
according 2 me, guys like me like 2 remain silent till d situation dont get out f control..n according 2 me, EVERYTYM jst talking or doing sumthing doesn't helps...sumtyms, silence helps relationships, though gals cn neva understand it...:p
ReplyDeleteHahahaha.. Yeah Right ! How can I forget your ultra silence mode ? Well , whatever the case , that helps sometimes .
ReplyDeletealways remember 'ek chup saaw sukh '' :P :P ps-no offence :D
ReplyDeletehahhaha.. Yeah Manish ! Sometimes ;)
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