Type of Boys to Stay Away From ;)

As I woke up in the morning, brushed my teeth, took a bath, had breakfast and sat on the couch all dressed up neatly to start up with my work. So, since past few days its been like a routine to check mail box in the first place. What I see is a mail from a girl . No personal information disclosed . Had a request though !
Something written on - " Type of Boys to Stay Away from "
Sounds cheesy . At first I thought of sending a humble apology of why this topic can't be written upon . But the sad part is that I couldn't find even one reason , except for the fact that after I have finished writing , it may raise a few eyebrows of my male friends . But then who cares ? ;)
So, it was indeed a very tricky and challenging task to categorize guys in different genres that represent the guys to stay away from or to think twice or thrice before dating them .

1.  The Womanizer 
   Symptoms :-
* Difficult to identify
* Probably most attractive men.
* Have an amazing comfort with woman.
* No-no for commitment , Yes-yes for playing around.

Favorite Dialogue :- I never found a girl of my type. Its been a while since I have met you. Hope it changes soon .

Remedies :-
See, its not your fault if you get attracted and charmed by a guy who possesses all the above mentioned traits. But then, use your Brains ! Most of the girls going around with a guy like this think maybe he'll change now. For me ! * Wink .
Hmm . If you are this confident , you wouldn't be at the moment cross- checking with the mentioned traits. Accept it ! Sure, it may happen that he changes with time. But till then, its better to keep your heart with yourself only and be a little more than friends if you really wanna give it a chance.

2. The Workaholics
This is coincidentally the second " W" . Read on !
Symptoms:-
* Always found working.
* Has time for almost nothing but work.
* His essential things are bought by his mum or maid because......, yes , he has no Time.
* Attracts initially by showing dedication for his work .

Favorite Dialogue :- Work is Worship .

Remedies :-
Dating a working, independent guy is always fun. But if your guy is a workaholic, the case may be totally opposite . You may be a victim of frustration and at times feel jealous of your girlfriends, when their guy brings them flowers or calls them just to wish "Good Morning " ! Stop sympathising with your guy. C'mon! No one in the world is that busy that he can't even talk to you for 20 minutes in a day. Let him love his work and date his office. You girl, deserve a guy who dates you . Isn't it ? ;)

3. The Possessive One 
Symptoms :-
* Dangerous of all.
* Initially start up with pampering. Though with time, all alphabets except "P " . The new word is Pain.
* Control freaks. Want to decide almost everything in your life.
* May turn violent or really angry on revolt.

Favorite Dialogue :- Now that I am with you, I won't ever let you go. Even if it takes crossing the limits or going out of my zone.

Remedies :-
If its just on the starting step , ask your guy to sit down and talk about the problem. A guy is generally of the kind because of two reasons :-
Insecurity
Because of his past ( was cheated or something )
Clear his doubts, and work with him in improving his confidence too.
Still, if the things have reached the verge of violence or uncontrolled anger, just walk out. There's nothing left to hold.

4. Mummy's Boy 
Symptoms :-
* Often talks about introducing you to his mom.
* Shops , eats , sleeps , and does almost every other thing with mom .
* 60 % of his conversations are related to his family, yet again involving his mom.

Favorite Dialogue :- You know baby, I love you. You are just like my mum..... ( starts yet again )

Remedies:-
Tell him, politely he is not the 1st person on the earth to have a loving, caring mother. You too have one. Relax. You have all the time to love and adore her. Discussing about her and your family is also fine, at times. Not Always ! You're with him because of him not his family or his mum. And yes, do tell him that you love his mother too :)

5. No Name Type
Symptoms :-
* Most common kind yet unique in a way.
* Simple yet very complex.
* Have generally the same demand - More than friends , Less than Girlfriends .
* Talk casually about almost everything. Including things that are not casual !
* Mostly are attractive.
* Possess bit of everything that needs to charm a girl.

Favorite Dialogue :- Maybe there is a spark between us. Wanna give it a chance ?

Remedies :-
Well , there is no particular remedy to this one. Go with the flow I would suggest. Such type of guys are observed to be extremists. Either too good , to be bad or too bad in real.
If it works out with them, you are gonna be one happy gal. But if by any chances it doesn't you gonna have a tough time. Be prepared for both the outcomes. That's the best way. Frame your mind accordingly. And if there are any second thoughts , better back off.

Girls please be kind to your guy after reading this . If you're single then Cheers ! You don't need to cross check upon anything .
And boys , hope you don't have a hard time with your chick ;)

Back on the Track !

I wish I was a child again ,
Fighting for chocolates, singing and playing with the mud in the rain .

I wish I could have my textbooks back ,
See those colorful pictures, those entertaining book kept om my rack .

Summer holidays made this my favorite month - June ,
Once it began I was over the moon .

Coming back to school after the vacations and submitting our projects ,
Rushing for refreshment just when the school function finished , like insects .

Then came the class I waited for long - tenth ,
Waiting for the result the previous night , praying to God to give me strength .

Class eleventh just came , and by the time I started studying it was gone ,
Throwing chits in classes to the special ones , the paper on which we would write on .

Twelfth was both hard and soft ,
Career to make and dream to aloft .

Sometimes I think being a child was probably better than this ,
A pat on the back , cheeks ready to be kissed .

I wish that time could come back ,
And life could again move on the same track !

Between the two :)

The day is beautiful . Perfect Sunday ! Good night sleep ,  amazing home cooked breakfast. What else can a person ask for ? But then , my phone bell rings .

Me : "Hello " !
Her : Hey sabbi . Its me !
Me : Yeah. Got you. So, how have you been ?
Her : Nothing much. back home for holidays and all . Enjoying being at home . Aur Kya !
Me: Great ! Same here. Life's going good at my end . Aur bata ? Lets catch up . What say ?
Her: Not possible today . Have to go to meet my boy .
Me : Aaayeeee ! Kabhi toh mere liye time nikalo . You are always busy . With HIM !
Her: No. Nothing as such . Today am gonna sort everything out .
Me : Sort out What ? Everything's okay ?
Her : Yeah . Just on the verge of  breakup. Part of life ! Maybe .
Me : Shut up ! Part of life ? You saying this to me ? You loved him so much . I know that . How can you just let him go without any discussion . Doesn't he know how much you love and care about him ?
Her : Maybe he doesn't .
Me : What does that mean now ?
Her : I never told him much about my feelings . I never felt the need . I don't blabber about my feelings at least like him .
Me: You are right . Its all his fault . What a jerk he is . He never understood all this while about your feelings. What does he think you are ? He should have felt of how much you love him . After a relationship of 3 years, he must be able to read your mind completely. Jerk , idiot , bewakoof !
Her : Aaaargh ! Shut up . Okay ! I know its my fault . Stop shouting and tell me what should i do ?
Me : What do you mean you never told him much about your feelings ?
Her : He always used to pamper me . Everything seems changed past few weeks .
Me : Great ! From 3 years , the relationship has been going like this ? You loved him , why didn't you ever talk about it ? Make him feel special ?
Her : I don't know . I never felt the need . I promise i'll do it now. I'll do everything .
Me : Am not sure if that would help now . Still , talk about it .
Her : Am struck in a lot of mess . Dad is not talking to me too . He's angry from me past 2 days or so .
Me : Why is that now ? And better stop crying . Tell me what is it ?
Her : He's always crying i don't have time for him and mum . Am busy with lappy and my cell phone all the time.
Me : Chill . Everything's gonna be fine . Instead of talking to me , just plan your meeting with him. And yeah, better buy a small gift or so . Take care . And yes, I love you . Always have ! Bbbyee . I'll talk to you once you have come back from the meeting.
Her : Hell Yeah !  Will call you in the evening . Bye !

So, after asking from my readers and all the hints am getting since morning , You were right Sujata Bhau ! " Silence Kills Relationships"  This one's for you . And yes, for all the other readers .

            " People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care "

What is the purpose of being in a relationship if you can't even tell the person what you feel for him . Ever wondered how many years or months it have been since you last said " I Love You Dad / Mom " to your parents ? Remember sharing what all you love you have in your heart for them ?
Being Silent was good till the time we were in 4th standard and used to keep fingers on our Lips. You follow this dumb rule and you see people you love gradually going away from you .  What's the point of Loving someone if you can't express your feeling even with the same person ?
Silence can kill your relationship with your partner and bring many scars into it but a good conversation can heal a broken heart . A merry heart pours out sweet words from her and can kill the disease inside the house . Why only a partner ? It can be any person whom you share a living relationship with . If the person you love - friend , partner , even your parents , are non talkative it could be like living with a statue . How long can someone bear that kind of relationship ? If you still bear that , its Compromise not Love .

How it can work out :-


                      " One kind word can warm three winter months " .

1. Come up with a mantra instead of using the silent statement . Mantra ! Something that you repeat to yourself that empowers you and helps you see the bigger picture . This helps the most in the middle of an argument .

2. Write down what all differences you have with the person . Take control , and discuss them .You cannot be close to someone with whom you are afraid to discuss feelings .

3. Nagging and picking on the people you love are not same as negotiating . In fact , these are the pseudo things that people do often and tell themselves at least they are talking instead of being silent .

Don't just Talk to kill the silence , Talk to make other person believe that you really Care . Its between the two of you . Two people . Don't let people take advantage of this silence . Ever . Take charge , be Strong and say it .
  " One kind word can warm three winter months " .

P.S. - I hope everything gets sorted out between the two ! :)

Like This ?

Just because I wear skirts instead of shorts,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because I Played with Barbie dolls despite having racing cars at my side,
You'll treat me like this ?

Since I have a biological cycle to experience every month,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because I like watching romantic films than those stupid action one's
You'll treat me like this ?

Just because I wear a gown instead of a bow- suit,
You'll treat me like this ?

For the fact that I have a fetish for chocolates and love teddies,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because after a whole long tiring day, I cook a meal for you,
You'll treat me like this ?

And for all the other stupid things that pop in your head as a mark of differentiation !
Yes that too .

Because there's no other possible reason of why WOMEN are treated LIKE THIS .