Adieu 2012 ! 2013 - Please be nice ;)

Eureka ! This is what all I had been thinking past many days. So, the year is about to end in some 5 more days and I had been thinking past some days of what all this year made me learn. Hmm...Not many people think about that, but as you might have seen by now, I have this weird habit of analyzing things. While they are going on, when they're done, you know for that prolonged period of time. So, here's what all i have analyzed. Sharing it with you people with the hope that you also take some time to jot down what did the year teach you and how better and skilled you're to deal with LIFE than the previous year. That's what it is all about. Right ?

1. Something always dreaming of doing :
If today was my last day, and I had to thank God , keeping aside my family and for the life i lived , it would be to attain the very fact of my existence. To make me realize what i live for and doing what makes me happy. It seems a very small thing to hear or read - " I am doing what I always wanted to do. Its Overwhelming ! ".
To explain this is very simple. To make you aware what I actually mean. What is common between Shahrukh Khan , Aamir Khan , Salman Khan ? Or Mamta Banerjee and Narendra Modi ? Or Sachin Tendulkar and Peter Burge ?  They're living the life they always imagined to. Yes, they're doing exactly of what they dreamt of doing some day. How many of us get to experience that in our life ?
How many of us are pursuing our interests, or something we are really passionate about ? The year came with that fulfillment and joy to me. I found and started what i love doing. Writing ! 

2012 , I'll be always indebted to you for giving me the satisfaction and joy nothing could have given me. 

2. Relationship status :
Lot of my friends went from "Single" to "In a Relationship". While few went back to Square one- "Single". Other's still were in the bracket of "Its Complicated". And all my salutes to those, who had the guts to declare "Separated" instead of saying "Single".
Well, 2012 has been good with me. I learnt a lot of things in terms of relationships, love and if not more. The most important thing the year taught me regarding this very aspect was to Love, Respect and above all Value the people who love you. Quick take :-
a) Firstly, Don't run after people who are not people but machines. Yes, the one's who don't have the program installed in them to understand about a simple things - Emotions.
b) Never underestimate yourself. He dumped you, hell with him/her. You dumped him/her, maybe the person deserved it or maybe you didn't have any other viable option. ( I'm assuming here that you didn't dump the person for some 3rd person , and if you did then probably its not worth giving an advice ).
c) And for those, who wanna know my status, well I'm in a very happy place. So, 2012 , you held my finger and made me one more step further where i was last year, in understanding people, their emotions and Love on a whole.

3. Hope, Faith , Belief :
My first blog was dedicated to this very thing. The year made me more calm, and let things go. Have faith and believe in yourself and above all God. Between everything, the problems, the failures and the tensions exists Hope and Faith, that it'll be fine soon and Belief that whatever happens, happens for good. Everything is well that ends well :)

4. Without Fear, without Hate
Nirbhau, Nirvair.  Its the punjabi effect I guess. But absolutely true. Never fear anything and yes never hate anything or anybody. You know, throught life people will make you mad, disrespect you, will make you mad. Let God deal with the things they do, because Hate in your heart will consume you too.

The year made me stronger and maturer. So, here I am wishing all you guys a very Happy and prosperous 2013, and yeah also congratulations ! The world did not end. A film wasted, tension, predictions and what not. 2013- A simple wish, Please be nice ;)
 To conclude, Live your life like there's no tomorrow. Party hard and above all, stay Safe.

To all who i can recall :)

Am I alive, YES ! This is in response to the numerous messages that flooded my inbox on Facebook, while i was on a break. You know, its pretty strange when you get a message that reads "DOA" ?
The break was unintentional. Maybe you need some time with yourself, off from the world and then you feel rejuvenated ! ( Does that make any sense btw ? ) Maybe it does. At least for me.
These exams, as I always say test the patience of the students, I don't know about the knowledge part though. Patience of how much you can take ! I sometimes wonder of what part of the knowledge they actually check. Of cramming or of concepts ! Pheww... Any ways, am happy that its just over and the festive  season is back. Am all excited and all set for shopping spree.
So, this blog post is dedicated to the one's who are there in our lives and are important. Yes, I mean we don't really have a name for the relation we have with them. You just know them maybe from childhood, or through a social networking site but you really connect with them. You immediately become friends and the bond is really nice. You know, the good vibe giving relation.
I have been thinking off lately, to message all my dear ones on phone and on facebook ( for the one's who are not in my phone contacts ) to just say that i miss them, like seriously. But then, i decided to dedicate this post to all those whom i seriously miss and love. You guys mean a lot even if we are not in daily contact now. P.S. - Don't mind if your name is not mentioned. Its maybe because of time shortage. You're special, and no matter what, i still remember you. You know i mean it :)

Firstly, i take the chance to apologise my friend, Guncha. Trust me, i lost your contact and since i was not on facebook all this while, i couldn't message you there. Baby i am sorry. I know you're 19, and all grown up. But for me, you're the same old one who came in my section 5-C and whom i loved the most. I miss you and Shreya to the core. I miss us. And this is just to say " I miss you ". You've grown out to be so pretty giraffe ! Just stay the way you are future lawyer. Always ! Give my regards to Uncle and Aunty Jiya ( see i remember everything )  .

Shreya, its simple. I love you. I miss how you ate lunch from my tiffin. I miss how we used to roam in the school ground. I miss the outings we had. Of the days spent at your home. You're one of the few people i remember like instantly from school. And yes, mom misses you and Guncha too :)

Next, ummm...Its Chandni. ( This is not in priority order, so don't take it otherwise ), i remember you like from 1st class I guess. We have had a lot of fun moments, and I remember the swimming clusters that I have attended with you and Vani. I miss you Chandni and even Varenya. You were my mates from the begning of the school. We have done the craziest things together. Going to the washroom together, preparing fro tests, playing Ghar- Ghar ( you remember of how we used to store the pencil garbage as the left over food in desks ? ) It was insane but also so cute. You and Varenya , i miss you guys man.

Bhaghirathi, i remember how my other friends used to get angry that i always hang out with you in school in breaks and all. I remember reading Children's Digest together. You know the best part has always been the trip. The memories i have of class 5th trip, Uttranchal, Haridwar , Nanital. Then, with Guncha, Shreya of the Rajasthan trip. Golden days ! No matter where you are today and how much we talk but yes Ms. future engineer, i miss you and the days spent with you are really special.

Apurva, you and i were very good friends. I don't know what went wrong and why we stopped talking, but yes, you are amongst the people i remember from school. All the best Apurva, for your future. The time spent with you will always be something that i'll cherish :)

Sanchi, i guess i have spent whole of my 10th class with you. Nunio, you are amazing. A kid actually. Of 10th, i remeber things the most. You, Guncha, Ayushi, Adil, Asif wani ( how can i ever forget him ? ), in my section.. All the time spent with you has been like truely wonderful. Stay blessed and don't forget me :P Needless to say, i mess you Sanchi, and i wish those days could come back.

Sheran, I have always said you are my brother. I guess we were in the same class from L.K.G. Awesome right ? You have always been there for me and i know we have not been in much contact now, but this is to tell you that you have been missed and i remember Tavleen, Varun, Akul, Harsharan , kinda everybody till date. Your silly things, how you guys used to tease me with names. Stay happy and give my regard to uncle and Aunty :)

Shagun, meri jaan. What should i say. I love you. You understand me so well. Like everything ! I can't write about you. The times spent in Maths tution, of what all i did for you ( the setting part ), its been amazing. Mom asks about you like everytime. I know i don't call you much and don't meet you often but baby i miss you. What all we did. And you know what's the best part ? Whenever we talk, it feels as if we talked yesterday only. And i love the way how you say, chal updates dena shuru kar ! I love you. Enough said.

Phalguni, I don't know of how to say it. But if i have to put it in simple words, its Thank you ! For the things you did for me. You'll always be a friend. Whatever happened is past. Never had anything against you. Stay happy :)

Hamza, Aditya, Siddhant, Purnima, Irika,Shilpy I remember you guys too. Not in contact, but still. Time spent with you was good. All the best for your future. Hope and wish you the best !

Atankshu, Kya bolun tumhe ? I fight with you like crazy and you make up for everything everytime ( except a  few ). You know what you mean to me. Mom yells at me when i fight with you. You're a friend, guide, philosopher. You are one person i know who'll is here to stay for life. You are truely special. I don't know how you tolerate me but then you do, so Thank you :D And, the best thing is how you always say- Lets talk, no problem is bigger than the understanding we share. Ego side par rakho aur chup chap baat karo. Its EPIC ! Just stay the way you are. Love and best wishes hamesha :) If it was in my hands i could have written  essays in your tareef but you know everything. Right ? Enough said. We Rock (Y)

Varun Anand, kya bolun ? You are like insane. As i say, the mystery guy. Weird, but like totally different. You know things you talk sometimes seem unreal to me, but then as it is you who narrates them, so its gotta be unusual. You know there are some people with whom you can talk knowing they'll not judge you, are are one amongst them. Stay the way you are. You are nice ! :)

Sujata- MMC, was just about being vella. You were the one seated next to me. I remember discussing thing with you. You have been a great listener. Am happy that you connect with my blogs and the relationship we share is not something i can pen in words. Thank you ! Simple. Stay happy and All the best for everything in future.

Himangi, Priyambada dii , Maddy dii, Khushi dii, Niharika dii , the days spent with you seem like a dream to me. Its ended so soon. But Kota was good because of you guys. I have missed you guys a lot especially Himangi and Priyambada dii . You know dii, it was amazing to find you and talk to you on facebook. Stay the way you guys are, and i really miss the time i spent with you all :)

Nawaz bhai - Aaapko toh sab se pehle Thank you. You know, if today am into writing its because of you. You encouraged me and always put a smile on my face. I am so happy for you ( you know why ). Stay blessed always. You have made this kiddo turn into a writer by encouraging at the time when i needed it the most. Thank you !

You know i have learnt one thing or the other from you guys. Form school till college, i remember you all, whichever way it may be.I guess, i would need another post for my college friends !
All the best wishes, good luck and i miss you guys ! And i hope to hear some good words back about myself too in return ;)

Cocktail in a different Glass ;)

So, I happened to watch Cocktail after a long wait. When the film released, was at home so couldn't get time. And by the time, I came back to the city of Golden temple, almost all my friends had seen the film. So, no plan could be made.
This is not being written to discuss the music or the flaws of the film. To be honest, I was expecting something else. I get into a dilemma when I see this kind of material.
The film revolves around a casanova ( Saif Ali Khan ) and two hot girls - Meera (Diana) and Veronica (Deepika). The urban, larger than life movie is set in London. They have jobs which many don't even know about. What i mean is what you gotta do in that - Glamour photography, Graphic art and Software design ! which by the way is visible in only one or two scenes in the film.
The characters of the film danced, drank and had the most fashionable wardrobe you can think of. Yet ! in the end, the guy chooses the " Sati Savaitri " girl Meera. Now, I am not against the fact that why he choose her and not the other chick or even for the fact that loving a simple girl instead of a hot one is weird.
But the basic eye drop depicted in the film is way different. It actually awakens us for the fact that no matter how much we change or even have past a decade but still we are reluctant towards many things that happen in our society. The actual fact is that, still  in the end we need a girl who can cook Dal- roti , can iron our clothes, dresses conservatively, in short the one you would want your mom to meet.
So, the question is what type of India we are living in and our presenting to the kids, our youth ?
On one part, we ape the western society and their culture. But on the very next hand we want our culture to remain intact and behave traditional ?
I believe celebrating Independence day is of no use till the time we actually free our brain from these "Barriyan " . Being a girl, i'd like our men to have a wide open mind before choosing their life partners or even  classifying girls. Now you would be knowing of what am talking about ! Indian men or i should say even girls are programmed to think that way.
Short Skirts - Tops, Carefree attitude = Girlfriend Material.
Suits, dressing conservatively, No EX = Wife Material.
Isn't it ? You know it is. Accept it ! Until the time we don't we can never improve on he fact and the problem.
Having a traditional girl, who cooks, washes dishes must be nice but choosing an independent, working , is maybe better. Who knows ? Just labeling them as Girl friend is an insult !
Now, clarifying here, am not saying everyone thinks or acts that way but yes most of us DO.
My mother is a working women. Maybe your's is too. I wear good modern dresses and am sure you love flaunting them too !
So, does that entitle us to being just Girlfriend materials ? Or we would have to do some specific cookery course and learn other house hold chores before asking our boyfriend's to plan a meeting with their mum's ?
Think about it !
We are living in a world that is changing so rapidly that it hardly leaves any time to think where are we heading to. The cinema we see is a depiction of our society and of how would we act. Because after all we are the ones who accept such cinema.
On one hand we see guys chasing girls who are HOT ( the description is something of how would I describe Veronica or already have ) and then on the back, call those type of girls " Tezz " !
Don't just tolerate but celebrate the very existence of successful, independent women in our society. After all, this is what we all want to see. Equality ! Right ? We can live on lesser hot roti's but not in a nation which is paralysed in the way it thinks.
We just need the same Cocktail but in a different Glass ;)
And yes, a Belated Happy Independence Day !

Stay Faithful or Stay Single !

Once upon a time there was a girl,
who loved a guy with all her heart and soul .

For her, he meant the world,
For him, she meant just someone, of whom he was the world.

She would wait  for his call and messages all day long,
while he was busy texting other girls,
and had always some excuse, to cover his fault.

She tried her best to make this long distance relationship work,
He always had a side plan to use this as an excuse.

She felt being ignored,
But he always lured her with his talks.

She decided to let things go,
But he never let that happen - she was meant to be a side option.

Finally she decided it was enough,
closing the eyes won't change the truth,
Maybe it was meant to happen,
and its high time that she realizes, it was nothing more than a bluff !

She took charge and control,
being a dumb girl was past,
Now she's a changed girl with a strong heart and soul.

For all those looser's who treat their girl badly and make her cry,
You don't deserve her, or any other girl
But just someone who'll make him cry and hurt the very same way !

Stay Faithful or Stay Single !

Type of Boys to Stay Away From ;)

As I woke up in the morning, brushed my teeth, took a bath, had breakfast and sat on the couch all dressed up neatly to start up with my work. So, since past few days its been like a routine to check mail box in the first place. What I see is a mail from a girl . No personal information disclosed . Had a request though !
Something written on - " Type of Boys to Stay Away from "
Sounds cheesy . At first I thought of sending a humble apology of why this topic can't be written upon . But the sad part is that I couldn't find even one reason , except for the fact that after I have finished writing , it may raise a few eyebrows of my male friends . But then who cares ? ;)
So, it was indeed a very tricky and challenging task to categorize guys in different genres that represent the guys to stay away from or to think twice or thrice before dating them .

1.  The Womanizer 
   Symptoms :-
* Difficult to identify
* Probably most attractive men.
* Have an amazing comfort with woman.
* No-no for commitment , Yes-yes for playing around.

Favorite Dialogue :- I never found a girl of my type. Its been a while since I have met you. Hope it changes soon .

Remedies :-
See, its not your fault if you get attracted and charmed by a guy who possesses all the above mentioned traits. But then, use your Brains ! Most of the girls going around with a guy like this think maybe he'll change now. For me ! * Wink .
Hmm . If you are this confident , you wouldn't be at the moment cross- checking with the mentioned traits. Accept it ! Sure, it may happen that he changes with time. But till then, its better to keep your heart with yourself only and be a little more than friends if you really wanna give it a chance.

2. The Workaholics
This is coincidentally the second " W" . Read on !
Symptoms:-
* Always found working.
* Has time for almost nothing but work.
* His essential things are bought by his mum or maid because......, yes , he has no Time.
* Attracts initially by showing dedication for his work .

Favorite Dialogue :- Work is Worship .

Remedies :-
Dating a working, independent guy is always fun. But if your guy is a workaholic, the case may be totally opposite . You may be a victim of frustration and at times feel jealous of your girlfriends, when their guy brings them flowers or calls them just to wish "Good Morning " ! Stop sympathising with your guy. C'mon! No one in the world is that busy that he can't even talk to you for 20 minutes in a day. Let him love his work and date his office. You girl, deserve a guy who dates you . Isn't it ? ;)

3. The Possessive One 
Symptoms :-
* Dangerous of all.
* Initially start up with pampering. Though with time, all alphabets except "P " . The new word is Pain.
* Control freaks. Want to decide almost everything in your life.
* May turn violent or really angry on revolt.

Favorite Dialogue :- Now that I am with you, I won't ever let you go. Even if it takes crossing the limits or going out of my zone.

Remedies :-
If its just on the starting step , ask your guy to sit down and talk about the problem. A guy is generally of the kind because of two reasons :-
Insecurity
Because of his past ( was cheated or something )
Clear his doubts, and work with him in improving his confidence too.
Still, if the things have reached the verge of violence or uncontrolled anger, just walk out. There's nothing left to hold.

4. Mummy's Boy 
Symptoms :-
* Often talks about introducing you to his mom.
* Shops , eats , sleeps , and does almost every other thing with mom .
* 60 % of his conversations are related to his family, yet again involving his mom.

Favorite Dialogue :- You know baby, I love you. You are just like my mum..... ( starts yet again )

Remedies:-
Tell him, politely he is not the 1st person on the earth to have a loving, caring mother. You too have one. Relax. You have all the time to love and adore her. Discussing about her and your family is also fine, at times. Not Always ! You're with him because of him not his family or his mum. And yes, do tell him that you love his mother too :)

5. No Name Type
Symptoms :-
* Most common kind yet unique in a way.
* Simple yet very complex.
* Have generally the same demand - More than friends , Less than Girlfriends .
* Talk casually about almost everything. Including things that are not casual !
* Mostly are attractive.
* Possess bit of everything that needs to charm a girl.

Favorite Dialogue :- Maybe there is a spark between us. Wanna give it a chance ?

Remedies :-
Well , there is no particular remedy to this one. Go with the flow I would suggest. Such type of guys are observed to be extremists. Either too good , to be bad or too bad in real.
If it works out with them, you are gonna be one happy gal. But if by any chances it doesn't you gonna have a tough time. Be prepared for both the outcomes. That's the best way. Frame your mind accordingly. And if there are any second thoughts , better back off.

Girls please be kind to your guy after reading this . If you're single then Cheers ! You don't need to cross check upon anything .
And boys , hope you don't have a hard time with your chick ;)

Back on the Track !

I wish I was a child again ,
Fighting for chocolates, singing and playing with the mud in the rain .

I wish I could have my textbooks back ,
See those colorful pictures, those entertaining book kept om my rack .

Summer holidays made this my favorite month - June ,
Once it began I was over the moon .

Coming back to school after the vacations and submitting our projects ,
Rushing for refreshment just when the school function finished , like insects .

Then came the class I waited for long - tenth ,
Waiting for the result the previous night , praying to God to give me strength .

Class eleventh just came , and by the time I started studying it was gone ,
Throwing chits in classes to the special ones , the paper on which we would write on .

Twelfth was both hard and soft ,
Career to make and dream to aloft .

Sometimes I think being a child was probably better than this ,
A pat on the back , cheeks ready to be kissed .

I wish that time could come back ,
And life could again move on the same track !

Between the two :)

The day is beautiful . Perfect Sunday ! Good night sleep ,  amazing home cooked breakfast. What else can a person ask for ? But then , my phone bell rings .

Me : "Hello " !
Her : Hey sabbi . Its me !
Me : Yeah. Got you. So, how have you been ?
Her : Nothing much. back home for holidays and all . Enjoying being at home . Aur Kya !
Me: Great ! Same here. Life's going good at my end . Aur bata ? Lets catch up . What say ?
Her: Not possible today . Have to go to meet my boy .
Me : Aaayeeee ! Kabhi toh mere liye time nikalo . You are always busy . With HIM !
Her: No. Nothing as such . Today am gonna sort everything out .
Me : Sort out What ? Everything's okay ?
Her : Yeah . Just on the verge of  breakup. Part of life ! Maybe .
Me : Shut up ! Part of life ? You saying this to me ? You loved him so much . I know that . How can you just let him go without any discussion . Doesn't he know how much you love and care about him ?
Her : Maybe he doesn't .
Me : What does that mean now ?
Her : I never told him much about my feelings . I never felt the need . I don't blabber about my feelings at least like him .
Me: You are right . Its all his fault . What a jerk he is . He never understood all this while about your feelings. What does he think you are ? He should have felt of how much you love him . After a relationship of 3 years, he must be able to read your mind completely. Jerk , idiot , bewakoof !
Her : Aaaargh ! Shut up . Okay ! I know its my fault . Stop shouting and tell me what should i do ?
Me : What do you mean you never told him much about your feelings ?
Her : He always used to pamper me . Everything seems changed past few weeks .
Me : Great ! From 3 years , the relationship has been going like this ? You loved him , why didn't you ever talk about it ? Make him feel special ?
Her : I don't know . I never felt the need . I promise i'll do it now. I'll do everything .
Me : Am not sure if that would help now . Still , talk about it .
Her : Am struck in a lot of mess . Dad is not talking to me too . He's angry from me past 2 days or so .
Me : Why is that now ? And better stop crying . Tell me what is it ?
Her : He's always crying i don't have time for him and mum . Am busy with lappy and my cell phone all the time.
Me : Chill . Everything's gonna be fine . Instead of talking to me , just plan your meeting with him. And yeah, better buy a small gift or so . Take care . And yes, I love you . Always have ! Bbbyee . I'll talk to you once you have come back from the meeting.
Her : Hell Yeah !  Will call you in the evening . Bye !

So, after asking from my readers and all the hints am getting since morning , You were right Sujata Bhau ! " Silence Kills Relationships"  This one's for you . And yes, for all the other readers .

            " People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care "

What is the purpose of being in a relationship if you can't even tell the person what you feel for him . Ever wondered how many years or months it have been since you last said " I Love You Dad / Mom " to your parents ? Remember sharing what all you love you have in your heart for them ?
Being Silent was good till the time we were in 4th standard and used to keep fingers on our Lips. You follow this dumb rule and you see people you love gradually going away from you .  What's the point of Loving someone if you can't express your feeling even with the same person ?
Silence can kill your relationship with your partner and bring many scars into it but a good conversation can heal a broken heart . A merry heart pours out sweet words from her and can kill the disease inside the house . Why only a partner ? It can be any person whom you share a living relationship with . If the person you love - friend , partner , even your parents , are non talkative it could be like living with a statue . How long can someone bear that kind of relationship ? If you still bear that , its Compromise not Love .

How it can work out :-


                      " One kind word can warm three winter months " .

1. Come up with a mantra instead of using the silent statement . Mantra ! Something that you repeat to yourself that empowers you and helps you see the bigger picture . This helps the most in the middle of an argument .

2. Write down what all differences you have with the person . Take control , and discuss them .You cannot be close to someone with whom you are afraid to discuss feelings .

3. Nagging and picking on the people you love are not same as negotiating . In fact , these are the pseudo things that people do often and tell themselves at least they are talking instead of being silent .

Don't just Talk to kill the silence , Talk to make other person believe that you really Care . Its between the two of you . Two people . Don't let people take advantage of this silence . Ever . Take charge , be Strong and say it .
  " One kind word can warm three winter months " .

P.S. - I hope everything gets sorted out between the two ! :)

Like This ?

Just because I wear skirts instead of shorts,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because I Played with Barbie dolls despite having racing cars at my side,
You'll treat me like this ?

Since I have a biological cycle to experience every month,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because I like watching romantic films than those stupid action one's
You'll treat me like this ?

Just because I wear a gown instead of a bow- suit,
You'll treat me like this ?

For the fact that I have a fetish for chocolates and love teddies,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because after a whole long tiring day, I cook a meal for you,
You'll treat me like this ?

And for all the other stupid things that pop in your head as a mark of differentiation !
Yes that too .

Because there's no other possible reason of why WOMEN are treated LIKE THIS .

Heart is for beating , not keeping Secrets ;)

Am just back from my driving classes . The expressions that people give when they see someone learning how to drive is - " Yeah ! I am a master at this now . Your turn mate , enough of sitting on the backseat . Experience the driving part now . Welcome to the league. "  This is exactly what their facial reaction show. Well , there are other things to talk about except these stupid lessons .

I happened to read diary of one of my closest friends . Not my best friend though . But my really really close friend . And yes , she knows that i read it ! She only gave it to me . Not to read but have a look at it . Couldn't resist , henceforth finally landed up reading all of it , together . 

Now, without being judgemental , i think she should actually confess what all she has written in the diary to all the people , she needs to . I know , how difficult it is . I personally also write a diary , and i would like punch somebody's face if he / she ever dares to reveal the things i have written in the diary to that particular person . But then , life would be a lot easier if i myself do this . Isn't it ? 

Why do we write  a diary , when we have the person existing in this world to hear all our stories ?

Strange but interesting ! The answer is maybe because we fear . We run from our emotions , thoughts , and above all The Truth .
The things we actually confess when we are alone . There's nobody to listen and we know no judgements would be passed once we say what all is their in our hearts . 

But then , years after , when we read the same diary or look deep in our hearts , there would be a million things jammed up which were never told , buried deep inside . 

That would be the time when we would regret keeping them in our heart , rather then telling the person , regardless of the fact what he / she would think about us if we would have told them . 

                                   Stories are meant to be told first , then written !

Even if you end up crying , disappointed , sad , angry , or irritated with the reaction of that particular person to whom you always wanted your story , what all was their in your heart , you would be Satisfied !

Satisfied with the fact , that you atleast had the courage unlike millions of people to speak your mind and tell what you always wanted to , things in your heart . 

And then there would come a time , when you'll throw away your diary and speak what you always wrote . You wouldn't keep your diary with a lock attached . Think what if he / she someday reads it ? 

No Fears , No Boundaries ...
So, from now on i would make it a point to speak what's there in  my mind and my heart to all those people i really need to . That doesn't mean i would end up with the my  ritual of diary writing !
You also try and do the same thing . Any other reason of why you should also think about this ?

                  Neah ! You don't need a reason to speak your mind and heart , Do you ? ;)

Improving Leadership .

" Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want because he wants to do it "
                                                                              - Dwight D. Eisenhower
Whether you consciously aware of it or not , on some level  you are continually leading yourself and others. As a result , it would only make sense that you strive to improve your leadership skills and get the most out of life for everyone in your sphere .
If you desire to lead a passion filled life wherein you are a positive influence to everyone you must have some basic leadership qualities in you .

Read on :-

1.  Have a clear vision of yourself , others , and the world . 
Who are you ? What do you stand for ? What is your life purpose ? How do you want to influence others ? How do you want to contribute to your family , friends , and colleagues , and the world ? Answer these questions to formulate a concrete vision of yourself and the world . Then , start living your life as the leader who makes your vision into a reality !

2. Know and utilize your strengths and gifts.
You have unique gifts that you were born with and personal strengths you've developed over a lifetime. Realizing and utilizing these gifts and strengths will assist you in being a formidable leader.

3. Live in accordance with your morals and values. 
Making choices and taking actions out of accordance with your morals and values leaves you with a nagging "Bad" feeling. This feeling seeping in your subconscious mind hinders your success in your career and your relationships . On the other hand , making choices and taking actions aligned with your morals and values helps you succeed almost effortlessly . People sense integrity and will naturally respect your opinion and leadership .

4. Lead others with inclusiveness and compassion.
The greatest leaders are those who include everyone in their sphere of influence by recognizing each person's greatest values. To be one of the greatest leaders , look beyond the obvious and see with insight and compassion. Many of history's greatest leaders have admitted that they rose to the top because another leader recognized and harnessed their potential .

5. Continue to improve and educate yourself.
Great leaders continue to improve themselves in every possible way . The person who thinks he's an expert has still a lot to learn . Never stop learning . Be receptive to everyone's perceptions and information from around the world and beyond . Grow...grow..grow...Learn..learn..learn !

Why ?

Why is the sky blue ,
Why is the grass in winters filled with dew ?

Why do people Hate more than Love ,
And when they do , at times they get bluffed .


Why there are moments when we cry ,
Why at times our life becomes dry ?


To share our feelings why do we shy , 
Why we give up , and not again try ?


Why at the last lap we surrender , 
And think so deeply , 
Mistakes happen ,
But still curse ourselves for the blunder ? 


Fear to Love again , Why ?
People are not the same , but why we still  fear .


Why are people afraid of listening the truth , 
and love to hear lie ?
Why we get selfish , 
like some leave their parents in Old age homes !
Remember they are the ones who made your life bloom .

Why do we worry all the time ?
Life is curry , with all the spices .
Why do we pray to God only in happiness ,
and not crisis ?

A " WHY " to the question , always does not have a reason ,
Just like a bird trapped in a prison .

For the Loved Ones :)

Holding the newspaper in their hands , not many people pay much attention to the " Obituaries " column . I also didn't . But past few days I have been reading them . And I have yet again learnt something ! Something important . Something to share about .
While I was today reading the same Obituary column , it struck me like a flash of light . Reading about the lives other people lived , this is what I have concluded .

1. Family
2. Friends
3. Associations
4. Contribution to the Society .

These are the things which matter the most to the people . Ask How ?
Ever noticed who all are mentioned in the column when a person dies ? Family and Friends at the top .
For now at least ! I am yet to find one which mentions that the person died happily and his soul may rest in peace while his Lawyer , accountant , Personal secretary are sitting beside him .
People who are your loved ones are mentioned , and it is they who feel the loss . I am not saying that others don't . But yes , when you are at death bed , you surely like to be around your loved ones .
Make a life that people remember you and miss you when you die . They have you in the memories . For what you did in your life . That is an Achievement !
Each one of us is gonna die . That is for sure . But how many of us are living to the fullest , or doing something that is actually gonna keep us in the memories of the people who are we working with . Few !

Everyone at their death bed for what I believe , cherishes the time they spent with their loved ones - parents , spouse , siblings . So , why not create those memories , so that you have something to cherish when you reach the deathbed .

Dream Richly
Live Fully
Learn to just let go
Love with all your heart
Leave the Earth better than you found it !

                                               Everything to cherish , Nothing to regret !

And as the Chinese say - " The Best time to do a thing was the first time you thought of doing it . The Second best time is NOW ! "

The Hidden Treasure !

Past few days , I happened to notice that there is something missing , something less . What is it ? I asked to myself . Until i realized something : -
Everybody has the access to it , everybody knows about it too , but not everybody really knows the wonders and powers of the thing they possess .
                                                              PRAYER !
This was the thing that was missing . It was not a routine affair . Something which if happens is very good , but if not doesn't force you to think much .
But now I have an all new different perception to it .
When you know that something is good , Gives you everything that you are looking out for : Satisfaction , Mental Peace , Hope , Faith , Belief , Healing Power , Positivity , and an umpteen other such things , Then why not make it a daily routine ?
It was this that was Missing !
It is something you can't explain or pass on to somebody . The things you get in return . You gotta do it to feel the difference .
When you sit in a prayer , your mind is filled with the soothing ,  moral and  spiritual thoughts . This is the beauty Prayer . After you are done with your prayer , you feel you have become a better person than before , as a human being .
There are a lot of notions which are embedded in people's mind when the concept of Prayer is heard .
A True Prayer is not burdened with rituals . God is everywhere . Any spot which you use to connect with God, becomes a Temple .
Mahatma Gandhi said - " I humbly claim to be a man of prayer . "
A heartfelt prayer is not a recitation from the lips . It is a yearning from within . Prayer is the voice of faith . It does not affect only the person but the entire moral environment . The thoughts being embedded in your prayer determine its effectiveness .
When you pray for peace , you eventually get peace . Its all the power of thoughts you put in .
But your prayers are not just your thoughts . They are The Most Powerful One's .
      Take out Time , Sit Back and Pray . You'll be surprised to see the effectiveness and Power of Prayer .

Victory of the Corrupt System ?

Of all the things I have shared with you and of what I have written till now , THIS is closest to my heart .
I am enraged , sad , disappointed and most of all ashamed of " THIS VICTORY OF THE CORRUPT SYSTEM " .
Here it is :-
Everyone of us remember the Ruchika Girhotra case . Don't we ? Okay ! Maybe some of you don't .
But surely you would remember this pretty girl .

You do , Right ?
Well , going through the newspaper today , I read something , which I couldn't take off my head , even when I finished reading the last page .

       " RUCHIKA'S FAMILY GIVES UP , ACCEPTS CBI CLOSURE REPORT "


These words of the National Daily struck me so bad , that I decided to protest against it , and not act them like the CBI officials handling this case .
We are living in a country , that has gained Independence since 1947 . The ruling  government ( Be it of any political party ) claims for providing all the best facilities to the citizens of the country . Interesting ! But what happens when it comes to giving a fair decision by the legal system and the judiciary ?
CBI is the most trusted legal organisation functioning in the country . But what if this organisation has become corrupt ?
Frankly speaking , even i personally didn't have much knowledge about this very case . But while going through the whole case and after learning about it , I am Shocked .
The case involves the molestation of 14 year old Ruchika Girhotra in 1990 by the Inspector Genral of Police  Shambhu Pratap Rathore ( SPS Rathore ) in Haryana , India . After she made complaint , the victim , her family , and her friends were all systematically harassed by the police leading to her eventual suicide .
Now, in 2012 , after attending almost 400 court hearings , now the Girhotra family has taken the case back .
Why ?
Because Mr. Rathore maybe bribed the family or influenced them to allow the CBI to close the the case.
So, without saying or writing anything against any one party , as this case is still pending in the court, i leave it on you to decide .
Is it fair ? What all is happening . And i am pretty sure that your comments and views will make a difference.
Wake up , Raise your voice , and  Speak against the injustice being done .

Mr. Stranger

So , I saw that stranger in my dream ,
He smiled , and before i could  hold him , he was gone .

Afraid , confused , i opened my eyes ,
To look for that stranger , i saw this night .

I remember everything about that Mr. Stranger ,
Because , there was a time when i had known him pretty well .

I remember how Mr. Stranger used to say ;
" There are times when you curse people for just being in your life ,
but when they go , you miss their existence " .

Million memories , but few are enough to come back again to you ,
Mr. Stranger !

Someone told - " Sometimes we laugh together ,
and there are times when we have to cry alone " ,
All the promises made , but now they are gone .

Hard to believe , how people who once were your life ,
or a very important part of it ,
are now being referred to as Mr. Stranger !

Meeting for acquaintance , only if that is the last option left .

We are the same people , Mr. Stranger , you remember ?
Who used to laugh on our Never Ending talks !

I hope that someday , I can explain ,
That you , yes you , Mr. Stranger ,
Will always be more than a Stranger to me .

Maybe you don't believe me ,
But the dreams that witnessed you ,
will be my evidence .

Handling Relationships !

I've often asked myself what people who are on their death beds wish they had spent more time doing . I think the answer running through their heads at that time might be - " Spending more time with people i love . Life, after all , is all about relationships " .
Wondering why i am sharing my views about relationships all of a sudden . Someone has asked to . I don't really know that person , but since i write for my audiences and this was a polite request , So here i am .

"On the death bed no one has ever wished that they had spent more time in the office" .
 Exactly !
Start up with some basic things . To begin with ; Analyse how is your relationship with the people you love . Your friends , siblings , parents / guardians , girlfriend , boyfriend etc .
Maybe its going great . Maybe not . Either way , you can improve it .
You don't have to be perfect - none of us really is . You just need to make progress ; progress within yourself . Because the most important ingredient in any relationship is what You are .
You can do lot of things , but here are 6 that work every time :-
1. Promises that are kept .
2. Small acts of Kindness .
3. Loyalty .
4. Listening , then Talking .
5. Saying Sorry .
6.  Setting realistic expectations .

In order to have a failed relationship , here are the things that work too . So , please avoid :-
1. Breaking a Promise .
2. Not Sharing.
3. Back Biting.
4. Not listening at all !!
5. Being full of yourself .
6. Setting unrealistic expectations .

Think like a Mirror . It doesn't judge . It just reflects . Mirroring isn't Mimicking .

Mimicking is                                     Repeating words .
                                                       Using same words.
                                                      Cold and indifferent .

Mirroring is                                     Repeating the meaning.
                                                       Using your own words.
                                                       Warm and Caring .

Try making the 6 Golden rules a habit . It will surely improve your relationship with others . The person may initially think you're playing him or her ( if you have been very bad with the fellow )  - but will ultimately also appreciate your concern  ;) 

Watch me !

Being at home in vacations makes you nothing , except Lazy ! I wonder , if one should cherish this time or to feel sad for the fact that soon this time will get over . 

Now , considering this fact , lemme check . I actually do a lot of  " things " in the whole day - read magazines , novels, and of course , the writing part . 

You know , people ask me , specially my friends , about the progress of my writing job .

Chinese saying - " Something that you enjoy is not work , and when you get paid for it , its no Job " . 

Henceforth , i don't count it as work . Writing is like Oxygen to me . Even if i don't write for my blog , or the website , i write for myself . 

Something makes me happy , this very day ! 

Have completed 11,00 page reviews today . Now , it is something , that makes me more than happy . 

Lot of reasons behind it . 

1) I always wanted to become a writer . Seriously ! But never told anybody . People think they are boring , dull etc. etc. etc. But not me . I think they are the most intellectual people around . 

2) I remember reading the Harry Potter book , and asking my dad , what all qualification do you need to become a writer ! Nothing Beta , just good writing skills . Waaaao ! I think i have those , i used to tell myself . 

3) I always wanted to get famous . No , am not famous yet . But yes , a few little people read my work and do mail me their feedback and this makes me feel as famous as any other super star . 

4) I love it when people tell me , they actually relate with my experiences and the stories i have to tell . I feel as if the reason behind my writing this very thing is complete . 

5) Had to show to some " people " , of what all worth i am . And i really don't care of what all they have to say about me . The only thing left to say - WATCH ME ! ;)

6) The most important reason is to see Mum smiling . She's not a very keen reader and doesn't really know much about these figures that i talk about . But yes , she is very happy for the fact that people read my work and like it . 

You know , it feels really great , to see yourself doing something that you always wanted to do . Trust me , there's no other feeling like this in the world . 

Something you always wanted to do ? Waiting for something special to happen ? 

Nothing will ! Ever . Take Control , and start with " That Thing " . 

And then , You'll feel the very same thing of what am feeling today . 

P.S. -Thank you all for your love and support . It's just the first thousand figure . Thousand's more to come . 

                             Happy Reading ! <3 

What Next ?

Have just come back home after almost 2 weeks of sleepless nights and much of the mental pressure . Yes , you guessed it right . The majors got over . Phew !
Seems like yesterday that the board exams results were declared , followed by the other competitive exam results . And How ! Now , its almost one year , and the newspapers are filled up again with the interviews of the toppers of the respective fields , of the pages filled with the advertisements of different institutes .
I completely understand , how it feels . This time , Gosh ! It really sucks everything out of you . You feel pressurized , frustrated and most of all confused . Life seems directionless . What is gonna happen next ? Its the only question that pinches you once a while .
The only thing to do at this point of time is to have faith in yourself and God . Trust me , soon you'll see that everything will fall into place .
Last year , i went through the same situation . And once , I got through all this , entered college , I thought , I am relieved from the same pressure for at least 4 years ( till my course studies ) . But now I realize , i was SO WRONG !
Now , after one complete year , i find myself pressurized again . For the different reasons though ! Seeing my classmates and seniors getting all prepared for the coming entrance exams they gonna appear in , gets me into deep thoughts . Although , they have just started a little , but starting is what that matters the most .
So now , in the midst , I am confused , whether to enjoy these holidays and pursue my hobbies or to eventually decide of what I myself want to do in future . I am little much prepared in my mind though . It is a tough call and I am struck between the devil and the deep sea .
After the much continued thought process , I come to the final conclusion part .
I already landed up into something ( Yes , my course studies ) which I am not very much interested into . To be very honest , I never really was . I was interested in literature , world history , etc . But now what all I am studying is no where related to this .
            " Any how , Mitti pao "
This gives a sheer evidence that am currently based in Punjab ;)
Anyways , now I am gonna transform my interest into my profession , once my course studies get over . In fact , i have already started up . Writing ! To begin with . This is the PLAN . I am gonna sit for the exams that have the subjects that interest me , rather than stupidly preparing for them .
And also , this thought process session was important indeed . Yes , now when my friends and relatives visit me next while i am home at vacations , I vividly will answer their question  , a BLUNT reply of their same old question - " WHAT NEXT " ?

A Desired Change

Going back to the college after almost a week is as difficult is eating the pizza and not getting the last bite . Anger , disappointment , and the feeling of rewinding the time .

Now that am sitting in the train , i wish i could spend some more time at home . I would miss my loving , caring, unpredictable mother and my angel - my dad . But this time am going of  the hope coming back after exactly a month with my terminal exams getting over . 

While waiting for the train on the platform , i realized i am sad because i have to leave home for just a while , with the fact of knowing that i would come back after a month . But there i saw people who had no HOME !

You never realize the importance of something until you see people who don't even enjoy that luxury that you take for granted . 

I saw a mother and her child sitting on the station platform . The girl gently asked her mother if she had something to eat . The mother gave her a 10 rupee note and asked her to get something for herself from any of the shops on the platform . The girl at once snatched the 5 rupee coin kept beside and told her mother that its enough , the month had just started up .
I felt really  bad and that very moment gave the girl a 50 rupee note and told her  to get  good lunch for her mother and herself . My dad asked me - " Do you really believe she is not gonna misuse the money you gave her ? " Yes dad . was my blunt answer . A person can't misuse the money he has when he is empty stomach .
I really want to do something for the children who work in different shops, glass factories , etc . I want to see an INDIA free of child labor .
I really do salute those thousands of people of work away from the limelight in their very own way to eradicate this . I really wonder if they would ever get their due credit for their work ! ( P.S. - Read  "Tamasha over Talent" ) .
Read an interesting story of how a lady in her 30's has done great work of eradicating child labor from the lucknow railway station . I don't have words to express how much respect i feel for her . At a time when everybody is interested in making money and scoring to fame , there are people amongst us who are interested in working to make our society a better place to live in .
India has still paved a way of getting some really well people who are supporting different  NGO'S and acting as great philanthropists .
I wish someday i can see my country as one which is free of Child labor and i want to do my bit in seeing this change .

Officially yours !

Never had i given much thought about the beauty of my hometown - Jammu . But now since am living and studying outside my state , i realize of what i miss now . I miss the essence of the place and the positive vibes .
There's this particular feeling that you feel in your hometown - the place you are born .
You feel complete , mentally at peace .
But i realized that i never tried to look out for the knowledge - the history , background of the place .
So , now after looking out and talking to people , my grandmother , grandfather , the people who have seen this place grow . I am sharing the beauty of this place with you people now .
People presenting Jammu and Kashmir for you .

Jammu city :-


 Jammu is known as the city of temples . I remember learning this fact in school classes . The city was founded by Raja Jamboo Lochan in the 14th century  . My grandmother told me this sweet unique story about the origination of the place .
According the legend , while the Raja was hunting one day , he happened to witness a tiger and a goat drinking water side by side from one and the same point . He was so struck by this extraordinary phenomenon that he at the very moment decided to build a city at this site so that the strong and the weak could live together in peace and mutual tolerance .
 While my grandmother was narrating this story , she was both surprised and happy . I could sense that . Surprised of why i have suddenly got so much interest in asking about the history of our place and happy that of whatever reason i now want to now all about it .
Then , i ask her about the various and famous temples of the city . She getting all excited tells me about it .
1.Vaishno Devi :-
It was not possible that it was not  no.1 on the list . The temple is near the town of Katra , in the Reasi district . Approximately 8 million pilgrims visit the temple every year. I remember going with my family to the temple and the best part always used to be the travelling part .
Trust me , it one of the best temples you'll ever see . From the journey to the Bhawan .

2. Raghunath Mandir :-
Amongst the temples in Jammu , the Raghunath Mandir takes pride of place being situated right in the heart of the city. She tells me that the temple was built in 1857. And the most amazing thing that she tells is that though the temple is 130 years old , it has one of the richest collections of ancient texts and manuscripts in its library . Its infrastructure is influenced by the Mughal architecture while the interiors of the temple are plated with Gold.
3. Bawey wali mata :-
Now , if you were born in Jammu , you wouldn't be surprised . The famous temple is situated inside the Bahu Fort .
 Smartly , my grandmother smiled and told me that it is her favourite temple in the city . My grandmother more elaborately tells that the present temple of Bawey Wali Mata was built shortly after the coronation of Maharaja Gualb Singh , in 1822 .
4. The Peer Baba shrine :-
Okay , before telling you about the history of this place , i would like to tell that i personally have a special place for this shrine in my heart . I used to go with my dad to this place when i was a kid .
My grandmother explained that it is said that the Ali Shah shrine is said to protect the people from mishaps and evil spirits . A friend of Guru Gobind Singh , it is said that Peer Baba lived his entire life on milk alone and lived to the age of 500 years .

City Centers and Attractions :-

1. Mansar Lake :-

Mansar Lake is a beautiful lake fringed by the forest - covered hills . It was my most favorite  place to visit in summers with my family . Besides being a popular excursion destination in Jammu , it is also a holy site , sharing the legend and sancity of Lake Mansarovar .   

2 . Bahu Fort :-

Bahu Fort ,  which also serves as a religious temple, is situated about 5 km from Jammu city on a rock face on the left bank of the river Tawi. This is perhaps the oldest fort and edifice in Jammu city. Constructed originally by Raja Bahulochan over 300 years ago, the fort was improved and rebuilt by Dogra rulers. Inside the fort, there is a temple dedicated to the Goddess Kali, popularly known as Bave Wali Mata, the presiding deity of Jammu. Every Tuesday and Sunday pilgrims throng this temple and partake in "Tawi flowing worship". Today the fort is surrounded with a beautiful terraced garden which is a favourite picnic spot of the city folk.

Bagh-E-Bahu located on the banks of Tawi river, is a Mughal-age garden. It gives a nice view of the old city and Tawi river. Bagh itself is very beautiful. There is a small cafeteria on one side of the garden.

On the by-pass road behind Bahu Fort, the city forest surrounds the ancient Mahamaya Temple overlooking the river Tawi. A small garden surrounded by acres of woods provides a commanding view of the city.

Opposite the Bahu Fort, overlooking the River Tawi is a temple dedicated to Mahamaya of Dogra decent, who lost her life fourteen centuries ago fighting foreign invaders. The present temple of Bawey Wali Mata was built shortly after the coronation of Maharaja Gualb Singh, in 1822. It is also known as the temple of Mahakali and the goddess is considered second only to Mata Vaishno Devi in terms of mystical power.

The Food :-

I totally love the Food . Trust me , you will find some of the best recipes here . 

The Jammu and Kashmir food is influenced by the cuisine of the various communities that have settled in the state. The food is rich in aroma and flavor and presents a varied banquet of delicacies in vegetarian and non-vegetarian food.

The tradition of the Warzan is a specialty of the state and comprises of the course meal with 36 delicacies. The tradition was inherited from the artistic cooks who settled in the state during the rule of the Muslim rulers in the 15th century. The kitchen is led by the Vasta Waza who is the chief chef of the Warzan tradition. The cuisine is influenced by the specialties from the kitchen of the Kashmiri pandits who are the original inhabitants of the region. 

The Rajputs who settled in Jammu and Kashmir also present a host of delicacies that are still consumed in the state. The Kashmiris use spices like the asafoetida, aniseed, saffron and other additional and aromatic spices. The food is cooked in mustard oil that spices the food and helps to keep the warm in the cold climate. Curd and ghee are also used in the preparations.

Kashmir is known for the growth of fruits, which is used in the preparation of the sweet dishes. The Phirni is a popular dessert prepared in the state of Jammu and Kashmir. The regular diet of the local people of the state comprise of rice and hak, which is the vegetable preparation. Morel mushrooms and lotus root are also consumed by the local people.

The flavored Jammu and Kashmir food is another specialty of the region along with tourist attractions and beauty of the natural surroundings .

 While hearing the stories , and looking out in different books , i realized the beauty of this place . Take pride in your culture . Be proud of it . 

I am what i am because of you . I owe it to you . You'll always be the special one .

                                                                            PROUD TO BE A DOGRA !

It must have been love !

Never have i given much thought about Love , the eternal unconditional feeling or so . But then , since i have written my heart out on my personalized views on Breakups , i have been asked by many of my friends and have received mails to share my feelings and thoughts on Love as well .
A deep silence followed by  goosebumps is the first things that follows . I believe everyone deep inside is afraid to think about Love . Everyone is scared of reminding those memories which they have ever experienced , and now which have been buried deep inside .
Ask someone who has ever loved somebody . No , am not talking about crush , strong friendship , attraction . I am talking purely talking about Love .
People do ask about the difference between them as many believe everything at first starts from crush or attraction only . Well , it may start from friendship also . There are a lot of iff 's and buts , but you can deny that there is nothing in world comparable to the feeling called Love .
There is a Hot debate among youngsters of why to fall in Love when there is so much of pain and complications in it . " Everyone wants to go to the heaven but nobody wants to die " , is my reply which puts a smile on their face .Strange ! People around us want to experience the little joys , moments , care , want to take a backseat when a little problem or complication follows .
I am no love expert of  what you must be thinking by now . But yes , i know am not among the other 90& population today who just pretends to be in love or deliberately make themselves believe that yes they are .
There are already so many things , situations and people in front of whom we fake for our own reasons . Please  let Love not be another one .
So , i have this what i call Love Test . Take it and am sure you will love it as well . It will help you to know , at least to an extent if you are in Love or not . Read on .

1. BABY TEST 
It can be performed by looking at someone else's baby . If you smile at it , you're in Love . If you growl until it cries , then you're not and probably would never be with the person you are imagining at this very moment.

2. TOILET ROLL TEST  
Make a note of your toilet roll consumption  and if it increases suddenly during the seven day period (because of new felt anxiety) , then you're in Love .

3. SIZE OF YOUR TIP TEST  
When you are with your lady or even otherwise , and if you tip the waiter more generously , you're in Love .

4. SMART ONE
And if while reading this , you were cross checking whether you feel or do this way with reference to a particular person , then you're in love my friend .

Lastly , the most frequently asked question - How to know if you're in love with your best friend ?
Well , it is very simple . Obviously , the time you spend with your best friend is worth enjoying and you have all the fun things together . But when , you lay your head on the pillow at night , do you still see his / her face? Do you count the steps when he / she walks away ? Your heart will tell you . Ask yourself , before you end up saying years from now , it must have been love !

And the Reason is You !

As i wake up in the morning and draw the curtains side to see the sunshine this morning ( Yes , they make me nostalgic ). I see a pamphlet of some random Insurance company . No, there's nothing amazing in this. But definitely the lines written on it do catch my eye - " We are what you have made us to be " .
Just a finish with the line , i get a flashback of all the people i have met or share special bond with .
Now , what goes in my mind is that if this is true , which certainly is , then you are what the people have shaped you to be .
  Take time . Think .
It is all true . When we are born , we are more of like the modelling clay . We come in hands and contact of different people . They shape and influence us . When we leave them we are no longer the same as when we had met them .
Initially , we are all free hearted , till the time people teach us the lessons of heart and emotions as well .

Some people give us fond memories , some give unconditional love , some teach you the laws of friendship , and some people make you believe you why loving someone is never a good option ( P.S.- Don't worry , am not gonna go  that side ) .
When you look back now , you realize there was always a sign board ahead :

But you yourself never saw that . And the change was because of all those people who were destined to meet you soon on the next level . And , it continues till we die .
So , take a moment today and think about the people you have met till now - in school , in tutions , railway stations , airports , food joints . Any place you can remember where you believe you met a person whom you remember till now . Of course , the person is that special that he has his marks left in your memory . Interesting thought ! Isn't it ?
Thank them from your heart for teaching you all the precious lessons of life . Even they don't realize what valuable things they have taught us and hence inculcated them in us.
And the next time , you meet the person who has a deep contribution in making you what all you are today , surely do tell them - " And the reason is you ". 

Its Breakup not Broken up !

                                         " If you can't save the relationship , at least save your pride " . 

Falling in love with a person is one of the most exhilarating feelings. It feels as if you have got wings to fly . But when the love ends you feel as if you have fallen down from the sky and left shattered.
Love is a divine feeling . It really is when you are with the one you love and who loves you back he same way for who you are . But when that divine feeling turns into pain in the form of heartbreak, life turns upside down .

Break ups can be tough and stressful. But there are some ways in which you can make them less painful. Read on :
1. Love Yourself.
2.Don't rethink over your decision.
3.Talk with your friends.
4.Pen down your thoughts.
5.Forgive the person.
6.Remove all the memory triggers.
7.Let go off the negative emotions .

The sad part is, more than the encouraging break up songs that help you get back to normal, there are more of the sad love songs. Still, here is a playlist of songs that can make you believe that there is life beyond love too . 
1.      Song Title - So What
         Artist - Pink
         Best Lines - Now that we're done, I'm gonna show you tonight. I am alright. I'm just fine. And you're a tool . I'm a Rockstar . 
2.     Song Title - Irreplaceable 
         Artist - Beyonce
         Best Lines - Baby, I won't shed a tear for you, I won't loose a wink of sleep, 'cause the truth of matter is replacing you is so easy.
3.      Song Title - Believe
         Artist - Cher
         Best Lines - What am i supposed to do ? Sit around and wait for you. And i can't do that. There's no turning back. And maybe i am too good for you 'Cause i know that i am strong. I don't need you anymore.
Everybody in life at some point of time feels let down in love. But to come out of it as a strong, mature person, is the best way to deal with it . Come out of the breakup as a person rather than one who believes that there's nothing left to hold onto now.
Sit back and analyze what all happened. Give it sometime. 
Have faith and patience. Always believe in God and remember - God has better plans for you than you have for yourselves . 


                                                           So, fall in love with yourself all over again .