To all who i can recall :)

Am I alive, YES ! This is in response to the numerous messages that flooded my inbox on Facebook, while i was on a break. You know, its pretty strange when you get a message that reads "DOA" ?
The break was unintentional. Maybe you need some time with yourself, off from the world and then you feel rejuvenated ! ( Does that make any sense btw ? ) Maybe it does. At least for me.
These exams, as I always say test the patience of the students, I don't know about the knowledge part though. Patience of how much you can take ! I sometimes wonder of what part of the knowledge they actually check. Of cramming or of concepts ! Pheww... Any ways, am happy that its just over and the festive  season is back. Am all excited and all set for shopping spree.
So, this blog post is dedicated to the one's who are there in our lives and are important. Yes, I mean we don't really have a name for the relation we have with them. You just know them maybe from childhood, or through a social networking site but you really connect with them. You immediately become friends and the bond is really nice. You know, the good vibe giving relation.
I have been thinking off lately, to message all my dear ones on phone and on facebook ( for the one's who are not in my phone contacts ) to just say that i miss them, like seriously. But then, i decided to dedicate this post to all those whom i seriously miss and love. You guys mean a lot even if we are not in daily contact now. P.S. - Don't mind if your name is not mentioned. Its maybe because of time shortage. You're special, and no matter what, i still remember you. You know i mean it :)

Firstly, i take the chance to apologise my friend, Guncha. Trust me, i lost your contact and since i was not on facebook all this while, i couldn't message you there. Baby i am sorry. I know you're 19, and all grown up. But for me, you're the same old one who came in my section 5-C and whom i loved the most. I miss you and Shreya to the core. I miss us. And this is just to say " I miss you ". You've grown out to be so pretty giraffe ! Just stay the way you are future lawyer. Always ! Give my regards to Uncle and Aunty Jiya ( see i remember everything )  .

Shreya, its simple. I love you. I miss how you ate lunch from my tiffin. I miss how we used to roam in the school ground. I miss the outings we had. Of the days spent at your home. You're one of the few people i remember like instantly from school. And yes, mom misses you and Guncha too :)

Next, ummm...Its Chandni. ( This is not in priority order, so don't take it otherwise ), i remember you like from 1st class I guess. We have had a lot of fun moments, and I remember the swimming clusters that I have attended with you and Vani. I miss you Chandni and even Varenya. You were my mates from the begning of the school. We have done the craziest things together. Going to the washroom together, preparing fro tests, playing Ghar- Ghar ( you remember of how we used to store the pencil garbage as the left over food in desks ? ) It was insane but also so cute. You and Varenya , i miss you guys man.

Bhaghirathi, i remember how my other friends used to get angry that i always hang out with you in school in breaks and all. I remember reading Children's Digest together. You know the best part has always been the trip. The memories i have of class 5th trip, Uttranchal, Haridwar , Nanital. Then, with Guncha, Shreya of the Rajasthan trip. Golden days ! No matter where you are today and how much we talk but yes Ms. future engineer, i miss you and the days spent with you are really special.

Apurva, you and i were very good friends. I don't know what went wrong and why we stopped talking, but yes, you are amongst the people i remember from school. All the best Apurva, for your future. The time spent with you will always be something that i'll cherish :)

Sanchi, i guess i have spent whole of my 10th class with you. Nunio, you are amazing. A kid actually. Of 10th, i remeber things the most. You, Guncha, Ayushi, Adil, Asif wani ( how can i ever forget him ? ), in my section.. All the time spent with you has been like truely wonderful. Stay blessed and don't forget me :P Needless to say, i mess you Sanchi, and i wish those days could come back.

Sheran, I have always said you are my brother. I guess we were in the same class from L.K.G. Awesome right ? You have always been there for me and i know we have not been in much contact now, but this is to tell you that you have been missed and i remember Tavleen, Varun, Akul, Harsharan , kinda everybody till date. Your silly things, how you guys used to tease me with names. Stay happy and give my regard to uncle and Aunty :)

Shagun, meri jaan. What should i say. I love you. You understand me so well. Like everything ! I can't write about you. The times spent in Maths tution, of what all i did for you ( the setting part ), its been amazing. Mom asks about you like everytime. I know i don't call you much and don't meet you often but baby i miss you. What all we did. And you know what's the best part ? Whenever we talk, it feels as if we talked yesterday only. And i love the way how you say, chal updates dena shuru kar ! I love you. Enough said.

Phalguni, I don't know of how to say it. But if i have to put it in simple words, its Thank you ! For the things you did for me. You'll always be a friend. Whatever happened is past. Never had anything against you. Stay happy :)

Hamza, Aditya, Siddhant, Purnima, Irika,Shilpy I remember you guys too. Not in contact, but still. Time spent with you was good. All the best for your future. Hope and wish you the best !

Atankshu, Kya bolun tumhe ? I fight with you like crazy and you make up for everything everytime ( except a  few ). You know what you mean to me. Mom yells at me when i fight with you. You're a friend, guide, philosopher. You are one person i know who'll is here to stay for life. You are truely special. I don't know how you tolerate me but then you do, so Thank you :D And, the best thing is how you always say- Lets talk, no problem is bigger than the understanding we share. Ego side par rakho aur chup chap baat karo. Its EPIC ! Just stay the way you are. Love and best wishes hamesha :) If it was in my hands i could have written  essays in your tareef but you know everything. Right ? Enough said. We Rock (Y)

Varun Anand, kya bolun ? You are like insane. As i say, the mystery guy. Weird, but like totally different. You know things you talk sometimes seem unreal to me, but then as it is you who narrates them, so its gotta be unusual. You know there are some people with whom you can talk knowing they'll not judge you, are are one amongst them. Stay the way you are. You are nice ! :)

Sujata- MMC, was just about being vella. You were the one seated next to me. I remember discussing thing with you. You have been a great listener. Am happy that you connect with my blogs and the relationship we share is not something i can pen in words. Thank you ! Simple. Stay happy and All the best for everything in future.

Himangi, Priyambada dii , Maddy dii, Khushi dii, Niharika dii , the days spent with you seem like a dream to me. Its ended so soon. But Kota was good because of you guys. I have missed you guys a lot especially Himangi and Priyambada dii . You know dii, it was amazing to find you and talk to you on facebook. Stay the way you guys are, and i really miss the time i spent with you all :)

Nawaz bhai - Aaapko toh sab se pehle Thank you. You know, if today am into writing its because of you. You encouraged me and always put a smile on my face. I am so happy for you ( you know why ). Stay blessed always. You have made this kiddo turn into a writer by encouraging at the time when i needed it the most. Thank you !

You know i have learnt one thing or the other from you guys. Form school till college, i remember you all, whichever way it may be.I guess, i would need another post for my college friends !
All the best wishes, good luck and i miss you guys ! And i hope to hear some good words back about myself too in return ;)

Cocktail in a different Glass ;)

So, I happened to watch Cocktail after a long wait. When the film released, was at home so couldn't get time. And by the time, I came back to the city of Golden temple, almost all my friends had seen the film. So, no plan could be made.
This is not being written to discuss the music or the flaws of the film. To be honest, I was expecting something else. I get into a dilemma when I see this kind of material.
The film revolves around a casanova ( Saif Ali Khan ) and two hot girls - Meera (Diana) and Veronica (Deepika). The urban, larger than life movie is set in London. They have jobs which many don't even know about. What i mean is what you gotta do in that - Glamour photography, Graphic art and Software design ! which by the way is visible in only one or two scenes in the film.
The characters of the film danced, drank and had the most fashionable wardrobe you can think of. Yet ! in the end, the guy chooses the " Sati Savaitri " girl Meera. Now, I am not against the fact that why he choose her and not the other chick or even for the fact that loving a simple girl instead of a hot one is weird.
But the basic eye drop depicted in the film is way different. It actually awakens us for the fact that no matter how much we change or even have past a decade but still we are reluctant towards many things that happen in our society. The actual fact is that, still  in the end we need a girl who can cook Dal- roti , can iron our clothes, dresses conservatively, in short the one you would want your mom to meet.
So, the question is what type of India we are living in and our presenting to the kids, our youth ?
On one part, we ape the western society and their culture. But on the very next hand we want our culture to remain intact and behave traditional ?
I believe celebrating Independence day is of no use till the time we actually free our brain from these "Barriyan " . Being a girl, i'd like our men to have a wide open mind before choosing their life partners or even  classifying girls. Now you would be knowing of what am talking about ! Indian men or i should say even girls are programmed to think that way.
Short Skirts - Tops, Carefree attitude = Girlfriend Material.
Suits, dressing conservatively, No EX = Wife Material.
Isn't it ? You know it is. Accept it ! Until the time we don't we can never improve on he fact and the problem.
Having a traditional girl, who cooks, washes dishes must be nice but choosing an independent, working , is maybe better. Who knows ? Just labeling them as Girl friend is an insult !
Now, clarifying here, am not saying everyone thinks or acts that way but yes most of us DO.
My mother is a working women. Maybe your's is too. I wear good modern dresses and am sure you love flaunting them too !
So, does that entitle us to being just Girlfriend materials ? Or we would have to do some specific cookery course and learn other house hold chores before asking our boyfriend's to plan a meeting with their mum's ?
Think about it !
We are living in a world that is changing so rapidly that it hardly leaves any time to think where are we heading to. The cinema we see is a depiction of our society and of how would we act. Because after all we are the ones who accept such cinema.
On one hand we see guys chasing girls who are HOT ( the description is something of how would I describe Veronica or already have ) and then on the back, call those type of girls " Tezz " !
Don't just tolerate but celebrate the very existence of successful, independent women in our society. After all, this is what we all want to see. Equality ! Right ? We can live on lesser hot roti's but not in a nation which is paralysed in the way it thinks.
We just need the same Cocktail but in a different Glass ;)
And yes, a Belated Happy Independence Day !

Stay Faithful or Stay Single !

Once upon a time there was a girl,
who loved a guy with all her heart and soul .

For her, he meant the world,
For him, she meant just someone, of whom he was the world.

She would wait  for his call and messages all day long,
while he was busy texting other girls,
and had always some excuse, to cover his fault.

She tried her best to make this long distance relationship work,
He always had a side plan to use this as an excuse.

She felt being ignored,
But he always lured her with his talks.

She decided to let things go,
But he never let that happen - she was meant to be a side option.

Finally she decided it was enough,
closing the eyes won't change the truth,
Maybe it was meant to happen,
and its high time that she realizes, it was nothing more than a bluff !

She took charge and control,
being a dumb girl was past,
Now she's a changed girl with a strong heart and soul.

For all those looser's who treat their girl badly and make her cry,
You don't deserve her, or any other girl
But just someone who'll make him cry and hurt the very same way !

Stay Faithful or Stay Single !

Type of Boys to Stay Away From ;)

As I woke up in the morning, brushed my teeth, took a bath, had breakfast and sat on the couch all dressed up neatly to start up with my work. So, since past few days its been like a routine to check mail box in the first place. What I see is a mail from a girl . No personal information disclosed . Had a request though !
Something written on - " Type of Boys to Stay Away from "
Sounds cheesy . At first I thought of sending a humble apology of why this topic can't be written upon . But the sad part is that I couldn't find even one reason , except for the fact that after I have finished writing , it may raise a few eyebrows of my male friends . But then who cares ? ;)
So, it was indeed a very tricky and challenging task to categorize guys in different genres that represent the guys to stay away from or to think twice or thrice before dating them .

1.  The Womanizer 
   Symptoms :-
* Difficult to identify
* Probably most attractive men.
* Have an amazing comfort with woman.
* No-no for commitment , Yes-yes for playing around.

Favorite Dialogue :- I never found a girl of my type. Its been a while since I have met you. Hope it changes soon .

Remedies :-
See, its not your fault if you get attracted and charmed by a guy who possesses all the above mentioned traits. But then, use your Brains ! Most of the girls going around with a guy like this think maybe he'll change now. For me ! * Wink .
Hmm . If you are this confident , you wouldn't be at the moment cross- checking with the mentioned traits. Accept it ! Sure, it may happen that he changes with time. But till then, its better to keep your heart with yourself only and be a little more than friends if you really wanna give it a chance.

2. The Workaholics
This is coincidentally the second " W" . Read on !
Symptoms:-
* Always found working.
* Has time for almost nothing but work.
* His essential things are bought by his mum or maid because......, yes , he has no Time.
* Attracts initially by showing dedication for his work .

Favorite Dialogue :- Work is Worship .

Remedies :-
Dating a working, independent guy is always fun. But if your guy is a workaholic, the case may be totally opposite . You may be a victim of frustration and at times feel jealous of your girlfriends, when their guy brings them flowers or calls them just to wish "Good Morning " ! Stop sympathising with your guy. C'mon! No one in the world is that busy that he can't even talk to you for 20 minutes in a day. Let him love his work and date his office. You girl, deserve a guy who dates you . Isn't it ? ;)

3. The Possessive One 
Symptoms :-
* Dangerous of all.
* Initially start up with pampering. Though with time, all alphabets except "P " . The new word is Pain.
* Control freaks. Want to decide almost everything in your life.
* May turn violent or really angry on revolt.

Favorite Dialogue :- Now that I am with you, I won't ever let you go. Even if it takes crossing the limits or going out of my zone.

Remedies :-
If its just on the starting step , ask your guy to sit down and talk about the problem. A guy is generally of the kind because of two reasons :-
Insecurity
Because of his past ( was cheated or something )
Clear his doubts, and work with him in improving his confidence too.
Still, if the things have reached the verge of violence or uncontrolled anger, just walk out. There's nothing left to hold.

4. Mummy's Boy 
Symptoms :-
* Often talks about introducing you to his mom.
* Shops , eats , sleeps , and does almost every other thing with mom .
* 60 % of his conversations are related to his family, yet again involving his mom.

Favorite Dialogue :- You know baby, I love you. You are just like my mum..... ( starts yet again )

Remedies:-
Tell him, politely he is not the 1st person on the earth to have a loving, caring mother. You too have one. Relax. You have all the time to love and adore her. Discussing about her and your family is also fine, at times. Not Always ! You're with him because of him not his family or his mum. And yes, do tell him that you love his mother too :)

5. No Name Type
Symptoms :-
* Most common kind yet unique in a way.
* Simple yet very complex.
* Have generally the same demand - More than friends , Less than Girlfriends .
* Talk casually about almost everything. Including things that are not casual !
* Mostly are attractive.
* Possess bit of everything that needs to charm a girl.

Favorite Dialogue :- Maybe there is a spark between us. Wanna give it a chance ?

Remedies :-
Well , there is no particular remedy to this one. Go with the flow I would suggest. Such type of guys are observed to be extremists. Either too good , to be bad or too bad in real.
If it works out with them, you are gonna be one happy gal. But if by any chances it doesn't you gonna have a tough time. Be prepared for both the outcomes. That's the best way. Frame your mind accordingly. And if there are any second thoughts , better back off.

Girls please be kind to your guy after reading this . If you're single then Cheers ! You don't need to cross check upon anything .
And boys , hope you don't have a hard time with your chick ;)

Back on the Track !

I wish I was a child again ,
Fighting for chocolates, singing and playing with the mud in the rain .

I wish I could have my textbooks back ,
See those colorful pictures, those entertaining book kept om my rack .

Summer holidays made this my favorite month - June ,
Once it began I was over the moon .

Coming back to school after the vacations and submitting our projects ,
Rushing for refreshment just when the school function finished , like insects .

Then came the class I waited for long - tenth ,
Waiting for the result the previous night , praying to God to give me strength .

Class eleventh just came , and by the time I started studying it was gone ,
Throwing chits in classes to the special ones , the paper on which we would write on .

Twelfth was both hard and soft ,
Career to make and dream to aloft .

Sometimes I think being a child was probably better than this ,
A pat on the back , cheeks ready to be kissed .

I wish that time could come back ,
And life could again move on the same track !

Between the two :)

The day is beautiful . Perfect Sunday ! Good night sleep ,  amazing home cooked breakfast. What else can a person ask for ? But then , my phone bell rings .

Me : "Hello " !
Her : Hey sabbi . Its me !
Me : Yeah. Got you. So, how have you been ?
Her : Nothing much. back home for holidays and all . Enjoying being at home . Aur Kya !
Me: Great ! Same here. Life's going good at my end . Aur bata ? Lets catch up . What say ?
Her: Not possible today . Have to go to meet my boy .
Me : Aaayeeee ! Kabhi toh mere liye time nikalo . You are always busy . With HIM !
Her: No. Nothing as such . Today am gonna sort everything out .
Me : Sort out What ? Everything's okay ?
Her : Yeah . Just on the verge of  breakup. Part of life ! Maybe .
Me : Shut up ! Part of life ? You saying this to me ? You loved him so much . I know that . How can you just let him go without any discussion . Doesn't he know how much you love and care about him ?
Her : Maybe he doesn't .
Me : What does that mean now ?
Her : I never told him much about my feelings . I never felt the need . I don't blabber about my feelings at least like him .
Me: You are right . Its all his fault . What a jerk he is . He never understood all this while about your feelings. What does he think you are ? He should have felt of how much you love him . After a relationship of 3 years, he must be able to read your mind completely. Jerk , idiot , bewakoof !
Her : Aaaargh ! Shut up . Okay ! I know its my fault . Stop shouting and tell me what should i do ?
Me : What do you mean you never told him much about your feelings ?
Her : He always used to pamper me . Everything seems changed past few weeks .
Me : Great ! From 3 years , the relationship has been going like this ? You loved him , why didn't you ever talk about it ? Make him feel special ?
Her : I don't know . I never felt the need . I promise i'll do it now. I'll do everything .
Me : Am not sure if that would help now . Still , talk about it .
Her : Am struck in a lot of mess . Dad is not talking to me too . He's angry from me past 2 days or so .
Me : Why is that now ? And better stop crying . Tell me what is it ?
Her : He's always crying i don't have time for him and mum . Am busy with lappy and my cell phone all the time.
Me : Chill . Everything's gonna be fine . Instead of talking to me , just plan your meeting with him. And yeah, better buy a small gift or so . Take care . And yes, I love you . Always have ! Bbbyee . I'll talk to you once you have come back from the meeting.
Her : Hell Yeah !  Will call you in the evening . Bye !

So, after asking from my readers and all the hints am getting since morning , You were right Sujata Bhau ! " Silence Kills Relationships"  This one's for you . And yes, for all the other readers .

            " People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care "

What is the purpose of being in a relationship if you can't even tell the person what you feel for him . Ever wondered how many years or months it have been since you last said " I Love You Dad / Mom " to your parents ? Remember sharing what all you love you have in your heart for them ?
Being Silent was good till the time we were in 4th standard and used to keep fingers on our Lips. You follow this dumb rule and you see people you love gradually going away from you .  What's the point of Loving someone if you can't express your feeling even with the same person ?
Silence can kill your relationship with your partner and bring many scars into it but a good conversation can heal a broken heart . A merry heart pours out sweet words from her and can kill the disease inside the house . Why only a partner ? It can be any person whom you share a living relationship with . If the person you love - friend , partner , even your parents , are non talkative it could be like living with a statue . How long can someone bear that kind of relationship ? If you still bear that , its Compromise not Love .

How it can work out :-


                      " One kind word can warm three winter months " .

1. Come up with a mantra instead of using the silent statement . Mantra ! Something that you repeat to yourself that empowers you and helps you see the bigger picture . This helps the most in the middle of an argument .

2. Write down what all differences you have with the person . Take control , and discuss them .You cannot be close to someone with whom you are afraid to discuss feelings .

3. Nagging and picking on the people you love are not same as negotiating . In fact , these are the pseudo things that people do often and tell themselves at least they are talking instead of being silent .

Don't just Talk to kill the silence , Talk to make other person believe that you really Care . Its between the two of you . Two people . Don't let people take advantage of this silence . Ever . Take charge , be Strong and say it .
  " One kind word can warm three winter months " .

P.S. - I hope everything gets sorted out between the two ! :)

Like This ?

Just because I wear skirts instead of shorts,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because I Played with Barbie dolls despite having racing cars at my side,
You'll treat me like this ?

Since I have a biological cycle to experience every month,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because I like watching romantic films than those stupid action one's
You'll treat me like this ?

Just because I wear a gown instead of a bow- suit,
You'll treat me like this ?

For the fact that I have a fetish for chocolates and love teddies,
You'll treat me like this ?

Because after a whole long tiring day, I cook a meal for you,
You'll treat me like this ?

And for all the other stupid things that pop in your head as a mark of differentiation !
Yes that too .

Because there's no other possible reason of why WOMEN are treated LIKE THIS .